For a Man Left Alone With 3 Small Children, Help Setting Up a Home
By ANGELICA MEDAGLIAThe second-floor apartment Carlos Feliciano found on a short, hilly street in Highland Park, Brooklyn, not far from the shelter where he and his family had been living, was supposed to be the start of their new life. It was, but not the way he expected.
Days after the move his wife, then 22, broke off their strained relationship in letters that she left on the kitchen table, he said. In one, she asked him to take care of their children: Atabeishka, Lennix and Lydiana, all under 6 then.
It was Dec. 19, 2007, more than a year after the family had moved to New York from Puerto Rico “seeking a better life,” he said. They had lived with relatives at first. Mr. Feliciano worked for nine months at a Fresh Direct food packaging plant in Queens, and the family moved to a basement apartment, but he injured his back and was unemployed for several months, he said. When the landlord asked them to leave, his wife suggested they move to the shelter.
Once he had moved into the Highland Park apartment and was bringing in a slim income, Mr. Feliciano had more immediate problems than wondering what had happened to his marriage. He needed a better job; the children needed a routine of food and care.
During the months that his marriage was in peril, Mr. Feliciano had learned to cook by phoning his mother for advice. Now his mother, Blanca Matias, left her home in the Bronx to stay with her son and grandchildren for long stretches.
The two-bedroom apartment began to fill up. The statue of Baby Jesus with its pink tunic and outstretched arms was fastened to the outside door; white curtains and a painting of a Caribbean scene were hung in the empty living room. An orderliness that even the play of three children could not undo became soothingly familiar.
Support came from the people and the services that helped Mr. Feliciano gain financial footing. Through WeCARE, an employment program run by the Brooklyn Bureau of Community Service, one of seven agencies supported by The New York Times Neediest Cases Fund, Mr. Feliciano used only a small portion of his income on rent, and committed to save 20 percent for two years—an amount that WeCARE would match for future housing expenses.
WeCARE helped him find work at Kennedy Airport as a driver and cleaner for $8 an hour. Though his home is not far from the airport, it was a tough commute: “I would get up at 3 a.m. to catch the J train and switch for the Q10 bus on 121st Street to be at the airport by 6 a.m.,” he said.
In August, Mr. Feliciano started a $9-an-hour job as a delivery driver for Howard Medical, a manufacturer delivering products throughout the city. And his food stamps have been increased to $549 a month.
This year, too, Mr. Feliciano brought order to his living room. The Neediest Cases Fund gave him $347 to buy a futon and two chests of drawers for his daughter Atabeishka, 6, and his son, Lennix, 3. Mr. Feliciano bought a third bureau with his own money for his 2-year-old, Lydiana.
Mr. Feliciano’s wife has reappeared. She visits the children once a week, he said.
In March, a family court judge gave him temporary custody of the children. Mr. Feliciano hopes he will win full custody this month because then he would be eligible for subsidized housing under Section 8, he said.
Mr. Feliciano, now 27, is optimistic about the future: “I want to study English, and I want to have a career.”
He is patient with his children, and this, too, is a conscious choice. “My father abused my mother; he hit her every day,” he said. “But I will never hit a woman. And I am not going to do to my children what my father did to me. I want them to have all the things that I could have had, but didn’t.”
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